Can I Stay in My Parent's Subsidized Apartment After They Die?

Whether you can stay in your parent's subsidized apartment after they die usually turns on one question: were you on the lease as a family member, or approved as a live-in aide? If you cared for your parent in that apartment, it became your home too, and "Can I stay in my home?" is a hard question to face while you're grieving. You don't have to sort it out alone. Under the occupancy handbook HUD uses for its subsidized multifamily buildings, a live-in aide "may not qualify for continued occupancy as a remaining family member," while a family member who was a party to the lease can be considered as a remaining member. The first step is finding out which of the two you were.1

In This Guide

• Which Rules Apply to Your Parent's Subsidized Apartment
• Live-In Aide or Family Member on the Lease?
• If You Were Approved as a Live-In Aide
• If You Were on the Lease as a Family Member
• How to Tell Which One You Were
• Staying in Your Parent's Subsidized Apartment: What to Do Now
• If Your Parent Had a Voucher or Lived in Public Housing
• Planning Ahead While Your Parent Is Alive
• Frequently Asked Questions
• Learn More

This guide is one part of Brevy's checklist for what to do when a parent dies. It covers only the housing question, and only for buildings that get their subsidy through HUD's multifamily programs.

Which Rules Apply to Your Parent's Subsidized Apartment

"Subsidized apartment" can mean several different programs, and the answer to whether you can stay depends on which one your parent's home was part of. Before anything else, it helps to know what kind of help paid part of the rent.

The rules in this guide come from the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) occupancy handbook for subsidized multifamily housing, Handbook 4350.3 REV-1. The handbook says its requirements apply to the HUD-subsidized multifamily programs listed in its Figure 1-1. Those include:

• Section 8 project-based assistance, including Section 202 projects that also have Section 8 assistance (often written "Section 202/8")
• Section 202 Project Assistance Contracts (PACs) and Section 202 Project Rental Assistance Contracts (PRACs)
• Section 811 Project Rental Assistance Contracts (PRACs)

The handbook also says that not all of its requirements apply to every property or tenant. HUD Handbook 4350.3 also says it does not apply to public housing, the Housing Choice Voucher Program, the Enhanced Voucher Program or the Section 8 Moderate Rehabilitation Program, among others.2

So if your parent's building had project-based Section 8, Section 202 or Section 811 assistance, the handbook is the rulebook. If your parent had a voucher or lived in public housing, it isn't, and those programs are covered further down. If you're not sure which program your parent's home was part of, the management office can tell you.

Live-In Aide or Family Member on the Lease?

This is the question everything else rests on. Many adult children who moved in to help a parent never thought of themselves as having a "status" in the apartment. You were just there, doing what needed doing. But HUD's rules treat the two roles very differently once the tenant dies.

HUD's regulations at 24 CFR 5.403 define a live-in aide as a person who lives with one or more elderly, near-elderly or disabled persons and who is determined to be essential to their care and well-being, is not obligated for their support, and would not be living in the unit except to provide the necessary supportive services.3

The rows come from four sources. The aide's time limit and the no-continued-occupancy rule are in Handbook 4350.3, chapter 3.1 The owner's duty to verify the need for an aide is in the same handbook.3 The income exclusion is in HUD's annual income rule.4 The remaining-member rules for Section 202 and 811 buildings are in the handbook's paragraph 3-16.1

If You Were Approved as a Live-In Aide

If you were the live-in aide, this section may be hard to read. You may have given up your own apartment, your job or years of your life to keep your parent at home, and the rules don't reward that the way it feels like they should.

HUD's Handbook 4350.3, chapter 3 says a live-in aide qualifies for occupancy only as long as the individual needing supportive services requires the aide's services and remains a tenant. HUD Handbook 4350.3 says that in HUD-subsidized multifamily housing, a live-in aide "may not qualify for continued occupancy as a remaining family member."1

The handbook also encourages owners to use a HUD-approved lease addendum that denies occupancy of the unit to a live-in aide after the tenant, for whatever reason, is no longer living in the unit. That's encouraged, not guaranteed, so your parent's building may or may not have used one. If you signed an addendum like that when you moved in, find it, because it spells out what you agreed to.1

Being related to your parent doesn't change the aide rules. Handbook 4350.3 says a relative may be considered a live-in aide if they meet the live-in aide requirements, especially that they would not be living in the unit except to provide the necessary supportive services.1

Don't assume a timeline in either direction. Ask the management office directly, in writing, what it expects of you and when, and ask for its answer in writing too.

If You Were on the Lease as a Family Member

If you were a member of your parent's household and a party to the lease, you're in a different position, and the type of building matters a great deal.

Handbook 4350.3, paragraph 3-16, says that when the person who qualified the household leaves the unit, a determination must be made as to whether the remaining member of the household will be eligible to receive assistance. A remaining member must have been a party to the lease when the family member left the unit and must be of legal contract age under state law.1

Section 202 and Section 811 buildings

For Section 202 and Section 811 projects, the handbook defines the remaining family member as the surviving member or members of an elderly family or family with disabilities that was a party to the lease and living in the assisted unit with the now-deceased family member at the time of his or her death. In Section 202 and Section 811 buildings, Handbook 4350.3 says a surviving family member who was a party to the lease and living in the unit at the time of the death is eligible to remain, must pay rent based on income, and does not have their eligibility reviewed.1

HUD's regulations back this up in the program definitions. For Section 202 direct-loan projects, the definition of an elderly family includes the surviving members of a family whose head or spouse was 62 or older who were living in an assisted unit with the deceased member at the time of death. HUD's Section 811 rules include the surviving members of a household with at least one adult with a disability in the same way.1

Two details in that rule matter for you. You had to be a party to the lease, and you had to be living in the unit with your parent when they died. If both were true, the handbook's wording is on your side.

Other project-based Section 8 buildings

The survivor rule above is written for Section 202 and Section 811 projects. For other project-based Section 8 buildings, what Handbook 4350.3 says more generally is that a determination must be made about whether the remaining member is eligible to receive assistance, that the basic requirements include being a party to the lease and of legal contract age under state law, and that eligibility also depends on the type of project. Ask the owner in writing how it is making that determination for you, and which requirements it is applying.1

How to Tell Which One You Were

You may honestly not know. Paperwork signed years ago, often in a hurry, rarely says "this is your status after your parent dies." Here's where to look:

• The lease itself. Check whether you're named and signed as a party to the lease, or whether only your parent is.
• Any live-in aide addendum. If you signed a separate addendum about living there as an aide, that's a strong sign you were approved as an aide.
• Household forms from the management office. Look at any forms that list who lives in the unit and in what role.
• How your income was handled. HUD's annual income rule excludes a live-in aide's income, so if the office said your income didn't count toward your parent's rent because you were the aide, that tells you something.4

One more clue applies in Section 202/8 buildings. Handbook 4350.3 says an adult child is eligible to move into a Section 202/8 project after initial occupancy only if they are essential to the care or well-being of the elderly parent. If you moved in later to help your parent, ask the office how your move-in was approved.1

If the paperwork is unclear, the management office keeps the tenant file and can tell you how you were listed.

Staying in Your Parent's Subsidized Apartment: What to Do Now

Grief doesn't leave much room for paperwork. Still, the housing question is one to raise early rather than wait on.

1. Contact the property manager promptly. Tell them your parent has died and that you were living in the unit.
2. Ask in writing how you are classified. Ask whether the owner's records show you as a party to the lease or as an approved live-in aide, and which program the building runs under.
3. Ask in writing whether you can remain, and on what terms. If the building is Section 202 or Section 811 and you were a party to the lease living there at the time of the death, you can point to Handbook 4350.3 paragraph 3-16.1
4. Keep copies of everything you send and receive, along with the lease and any addendum.
5. Get help if the answer doesn't look right. If you think the owner has applied the wrong rule, a legal aid office or a housing attorney can read your lease and paperwork with you. Brevy's guide to subsidized housing notice and hearing rights explains how those rights work for tenants in each program.

The rest of the after-death to-do list, from notifying agencies to handling your parent's accounts, is in Brevy's checklist for when a parent dies. If you held your parent's power of attorney, that authority has its own rules after death, covered in what a caregiver can still do after a power of attorney ends.

If Your Parent Had a Voucher or Lived in Public Housing

If your parent had a Housing Choice Voucher (often called a Section 8 voucher) or lived in public housing, the rules above don't apply. Handbook 4350.3 says it does not apply to public housing or the Housing Choice Voucher Program, and HUD's 2023 implementation notice for housing agencies and multifamily owners names the HCV Guidebook and the Public Housing Occupancy Program Guidebook as separate HUD guidance.2

In those programs, the public housing agency (PHA) is the one that approves a live-in aide. In the voucher program, a family with elderly, near-elderly or disabled members may ask the PHA to approve a live-in aide, and in public housing a live-in aide may live in the unit with the PHA's consent.3

This guide doesn't cover what happens to a household member or aide in those programs after the tenant dies. Contact the PHA that ran your parent's voucher or building, and ask in writing. Brevy's guide to using a Section 8 voucher in assisted living explains more about how vouchers work.

Planning Ahead While Your Parent Is Alive

If you're reading this before a death, you have more options. It may feel uncomfortable to plan for the apartment while your parent is still in it, but it's one of the kindest things you can do for both of you.

• Know what you're being approved as. If you're moving in to help, ask the owner in writing whether you're being added as a member of the household on the lease or approved as a live-in aide, and read any addendum before you sign.
• Understand the aide definition. HUD defines a live-in aide as someone who would not be living in the unit except to provide the necessary supportive services.3 If that doesn't describe you, say so.
• Know the trade-off. An aide's income is excluded from the family's annual income, but aide status comes with the occupancy limit described above.4
• Expect the owner to verify the need for an aide. In HUD multifamily housing, the handbook says the owner must verify the need for the aide, may include verification from your parent's doctor or other medical practitioner, and may not require access to confidential medical records or a physical examination.3

How rent is figured in these buildings, including the medical expense deduction, is covered in Brevy's guide to how HUD calculates senior rent.

Learn More

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