About 63 million Americans are family caregivers for an aging or disabled relative, and half say it has hurt them financially. Most do not know they can get paid for that care.

How you get paid as a family caregiver depends on two things: your state's Medicaid program, and whether the person you care for is a veteran. There is no single national program that pays family caregivers, but most families have at least one route open to them. This guide explains the four main pathways (Medicaid self-direction, VA caregiver programs, a private personal care agreement, and knowing which programs do not pay) and links you to the detailed guide for your state.

You are not alone in this, and you do not have to fund all of it from your savings.

Why Getting Paid as a Family Caregiver Matters

Family caregiving is not a small favor. The 2025 AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving report counts about 63 million family caregivers in the United States, roughly one in four adults, an increase of about 20 million (roughly 45 percent) since 2015. Forty-four percent provide high-intensity care. Nearly half report at least one major negative financial impact, and 23 percent report being in debt because of caregiving.

The toll is not only financial. Nearly 1 in 5 family caregivers reports fair or poor health, and frequent mental distress is markedly higher among caregivers than non-caregivers (20.5 percent versus 13.6 percent), with dementia caregivers and those providing constant care at the highest risk. Getting paid for the care you already provide, and accessing respite so you can rest, is not a luxury. It is what makes sustained care possible.

The Four Ways to Get Paid as a Family Caregiver

1. Medicaid Self-Direction (Consumer Direction)

This is the most common route, explained in depth in our Medicaid self-direction guide. Most state Medicaid programs offer a "self-directed" or "consumer-directed" option within their home and community-based services (HCBS) waivers or state plan personal care benefit. The person receiving care (or their representative) becomes the employer: they recruit, hire, train, schedule, and supervise their own personal care worker, who can often be a family member. A financial management agency handles payroll and taxes.

In practice, self-directed pay is an hourly wage, usually at or above your state's home-care base rate, for hours you already spend helping. Paid through the program's financial management agency, it arrives as regular W-2 income, so a family member covering roughly 30 hours a week earns a steady part-time paycheck rather than a lump sum.

What varies by state:

  • Who can be paid. Some states let a spouse be paid (for example, Colorado, Wisconsin, and Oregon), though the rules vary sharply by state. Many states bar a spouse but allow adult children and other relatives, and a few also restrict co-resident relatives.
  • The program name. It is called CDASS in Colorado, IRIS in Wisconsin, CDPAP in New York, CFSS in Minnesota, Personal Choices in Alabama, CDPASS in Oklahoma, and many other names.
  • Eligibility. The person receiving care must qualify for Medicaid and usually meet a nursing-facility level of care.

Your state's guide below explains exactly which program applies and who can be paid.

2. VA Caregiver Programs (for Veterans)

If the person you care for is a veteran enrolled in VA health care, the VA runs the most generous paid-caregiver programs in the country, and they are separate from Medicaid:

  • Program of Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers (PCAFC): a monthly stipend to the Primary Family Caregiver of a veteran with a VA disability rating of 70 percent or higher who needs personal care for at least six continuous months and is enrolled in VA health care. It is federal tax-free and can pay a spouse. The stipend is not a flat national figure: it is set from the federal GS-4, Step 1 salary for the veteran's locality, divided by 12, then multiplied by 0.625 (Level One) or 1.00 (Level Two). For example, in a mid-range locality like Houston, Texas, the 2026 GS-4, Step 1 salary of $41,989 gives a monthly base of about $3,499, which works out to a Level One stipend of roughly $2,187 a month and a Level Two stipend of about $3,499 a month.
  • Veteran-Directed Care (VDC): the veteran receives a flexible budget, managed by the veteran or their representative, to arrange and pay for their own services.
  • Aid and Attendance pension: a wartime veteran or surviving spouse who meets the functional and net-worth criteria can receive up to $2,424 per month (single veteran with no dependents, 2026), from which a family caregiver is paid.

A county Veterans Service Officer helps file these at no cost, and the VA Caregiver Support Line (listed under Where to Get Help below) answers questions about all three.

3. Private Personal Care Agreement

If the family has private assets, a written personal care agreement (also called a personal services or caregiver contract) lets you pay a relative for care now. Three details do the real work. It should be signed before care begins, because a Medicaid caseworker later needs to see that the payments were compensation for actual care, not a retroactive gift. It should pay a fair-market rate, because paying far above the going rate for home care can be treated as a disguised transfer of assets. And it should document the hours and tasks, so there is a record of what was provided. All of this matters because Medicaid applies a 60-month (five-year) look-back to asset transfers when it determines long-term-care eligibility; informal payments to a relative without a written agreement can be reclassified as gifts and trigger a penalty period during which Medicaid will not pay for care. An elder-law attorney can draft the agreement so it holds up.

4. What Does Not Pay a Family Caregiver

How to Get Paid as a Family Caregiver Through Medicaid: Step by Step

Because self-direction runs through your state, the first move is always the same: find out whether the person you care for qualifies and whether your state's program lets you be the paid worker. These four steps get you to an answer, usually over a few weeks rather than a single call.

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Step 1

Confirm Medicaid eligibility

Check whether the person you care for already has Medicaid or could qualify. Self-direction is a Medicaid benefit, so this comes first. Most programs also require a nursing-facility level of care, which the state assesses separately.

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Step 2

Ask about the self-directed option

Call your state Medicaid agency or your local Area Agency on Aging (reach one through the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116) and ask specifically about "self-directed" or "consumer-directed" personal care, and whether a family member (or a spouse) can be the paid caregiver.

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Step 3

Request a level-of-care assessment

The state or its managed-care plan sends someone to evaluate how much help the person needs. This determines eligibility for the waiver or state-plan benefit and sets the number of paid care hours.

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Step 4

Enroll and start payroll

Once approved, you are hired through the program's financial management agency, which handles the payroll, taxes, and timesheets. From there you are paid for the care you provide.

Find Your State's Guide

Paid family caregiving is governed state by state. Pick your state for the exact programs, who can be paid, the pay rates, and how to apply.

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Taxes for Paid Family Caregivers

If you live in the same home as the person you care for and are paid through a Medicaid waiver program, your wages may be excluded from federal gross income as "qualified Medicaid waiver payments" under IRS Notice 2014-7. The VA PCAFC stipend is separately federal tax-free. State income tax treatment varies. Talk to a tax preparer familiar with Medicaid waiver caregiver compensation before filing.

Not sure which pathway fits your family? Chat with Brevy's care navigator for a personalized comparison based on your state, your loved one's Medicaid eligibility and veteran status, and whether you are a spouse or non-spouse caregiver.

Where to Get Help

If you are not sure where to begin, these free, government-run services can point you to the right program and to help in your area.

Eldercare Locator A free service of the federal Administration for Community Living that connects you to your local Area Agency on Aging, respite, and caregiver support. 1-800-677-1116 (Mon–Fri, 8 a.m.–9 p.m. ET) eldercare.acl.gov
VA Caregiver Support Line The VA's national line for family caregivers of veterans. It answers questions about PCAFC, Veteran-Directed Care, and Aid and Attendance, and makes referrals. 1-855-260-3274 (Mon–Fri, 8 a.m.–8 p.m. ET)
Your State Medicaid Agency Where you apply for Medicaid and ask about the self-directed personal care option that lets a family member be paid. medicaid.gov contact page

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I get paid to take care of my parent?

Often, yes. Most state Medicaid programs offer a self-directed option in which your parent can hire you as their paid personal care worker, provided they qualify for Medicaid and meet the care criteria. If your parent is a veteran, the VA programs may pay even more. See your state's guide above for the specifics.

Can I get paid to care for my spouse?

It depends on your state and whether your spouse is a veteran. Some state Medicaid programs allow paid spousal caregiving (such as Colorado, Wisconsin, Oregon, New Mexico, and Alabama); many do not. The VA's PCAFC stipend and Veteran-Directed Care do pay spouses if your loved one is an eligible veteran.

Does Medicare pay family caregivers?

No. Medicare does not pay family caregivers. It covers short-term skilled home health through certified agencies only. Paid family caregiving runs through Medicaid and the VA.

What is the National Family Caregiver Support Program?

The NFCSP is a federally funded program (Older Americans Act, Title III-E) that provides respite, caregiver training, counseling, and supplemental services through Area Agencies on Aging, with no income test for respite. It does not pay a caregiver a wage, but it is one of the most underused sources of free respite in the country.

How much do paid family caregivers earn?

It varies widely by state and program. Medicaid self-directed pay is typically an hourly wage at or above the state's home-care base wage; some states pay a live-in caregiver a daily stipend instead. The VA PCAFC stipend is based on the federal GS-4 rate for the veteran's locality. Your state's guide has the current figures.

What if none of these programs apply to me?

If the person you care for is not on Medicaid and is not a veteran, and private pay is not realistic, you still have options. Call the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116 (or visit eldercare.acl.gov) to reach your local Area Agency on Aging, which can tell you about respite, caregiver support, and any state-funded (non-Medicaid) caregiver programs that some states run as a bridge. It is also worth rechecking Medicaid eligibility, since spending down on care costs can bring a household under the limits over time.

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